Female led relationships discussion

I wanted to highlight the benefits of having her on top in this discussion.

If he is secured to the bed before you start, there’s little chance he’ll stop or change what he’s doing (which often happens right when you’re about to climax).

If he wears a ball trap device, it works best to leave the ring attached. Usually, the ring has protruding bits where it joins the cage, so you need to turn it until those bumps sit behind his testicles.

You can take off the main cage part once he’s secured.

Keeping the ring in place helps him stay harder for a longer time. A tight ring means he maintains that hardness better. If it’s uncomfortably snug, he is less likely to reach climax before you do.

I believe combining the discomfort of the ring with your preferred thrust angle stops him from reaching his orgasm. (If, like me, tying isn’t your strong suit, getting some cuffs is a smart move. I prefer velcro ones attached to a leash; they are quick and easy to handle. They also fold up neatly into a small handbag if you need them).

Now that you have full control over the angle and speed of thrusts (try moving back and forth so your clitoris rubs against his abdomen), you get steady clitoral stimulation.

Don’t worry if his penis looks slightly purple while the ring is still on. It returns to its normal color once it’s off. However, if he complains about pain or uses his safe word, take the ring off as soon as possible. You can use a cold wet flannel or an ice veg bag treatment to shrink him enough to remove it and then continue if he isn’t too sore.

I find that taking a long shower or getting a full body massage before starting, along with plenty of kissing, caressing, and oral sex, really gets me in the right mood for this.

After all, Oxytocin is the “cuddle hormone.” The more time you spend filling your bloodstream with it, the easier letting go becomes, leading to more intense orgasmic contractions.

If you don’t manage multiple orgasms using this method, I’d be quite surprised.

If you want to surprise him, put the cage back on and lock it before untying him.