Female led relationships discussion

uhh I know there are other gay guys here, but I didn’t see a specific spot for male-led dynamics. So anyway, I’m trying to help my husband get into the groove of controlling my dick. He already has one key attached to his car keys, and I want to give him another similar key, like how a Dom with big feet would hold it (he’s fine with that idea). I’m new to all this and curious about how to pull him in. Thanks! Mostly I self-lock myself right now, but I have the second key.