Female led relationships discussion

Most of us here believe in FLR, in women superiority, in their ability to lead, in most cases if not all, better than men. There are outliers in every situation. Ok, let’s assume the above is correct or some absolute truth. Why is it then that a woman would need to control a man’s orgasm in order to move to the leadership position? Are women not talented enough, not capable to establish FLR without sexual control? How am I looking at it wrong? XO