Female led relationships discussion

Hi there, I usually turn to this community for guidance and engaging perspectives. Today, I’m doing it again. At 20 years old, my girlfriend of four years ended things due to my kinks. She was the first person I truly opened up to with all my fantasies and wants. Her reason was that she isn’t comfortable being in a dominant role, which I fully respect. I didn’t come here just to vent sadness or anything like that, lol. But it definitely stings. My love for her remains strong, and I’m sure hers for me does too. She mentioned she didn’t want to stop me from achieving my sexual aspirations while I am still young.

Now, the real question arises. I crave submitting to a partner who cares for me, worships me, and brings joy; wouldn’t giving up these fantasies if they make her uncomfortable be the peak of unselfishness? That feels like an act of selfless love to me since my affection outweighs my own needs. This makes me wonder if many submissives, myself included, are actually selfish but hide it well.

But how much do I really understand about sex and life? Probably not a whole lot. So your insights would be welcome. It seems like giving up my kinks is the right path because they seem to complicate matters and bring me down lately. Yet, I’m uncertain if that’s truly feasible.