Chastity in vanilla life discussion

One of the things I believe men miss (and we definitely miss it in real life) is that key holding and chastity requires a level of energy and effort in the area of emotion that I think those that wear chastity miss. It hit me today (especially with all of the not so fun “shit” happening with rape, assault, women not being believed in things that are like the air we all breath), that one of the problems is that the workload in relationship management goes up with Chastity. What do folks here on the forum think or believe? It is my opinion that if a guy is interested in this activity, they also need to figure out how to lighten the load with the emotional labor. We all get focused “hard” on the sexual aspects, but forget that without chastity we should want to want to help our partner on the mundance … Food for thought (or am I way out in left field (using an American Baseball reference).