Female led relationships discussion

I came across this piece on the web and felt it could be relevant here… When you’re starting out by introducing chastity to your wife, girlfriend, or partner, rather than focusing on how many unwanted orgasms you can spare her, consider demonstrating that it enhances your status as a gentleman. This approach might encourage her to take more interest in the practice: )

1. He stands when she enters Historically, men would rise out of respect when a lady entered a room. It signaled humility and regard. Standing indicates attentiveness and genuine care.
2. He walks on her outer side, nearest the street Before modern drainage, a man walked on the outside edge of the pavement in a long coat to shield her from dust and splashing water caused by horse carriages. If he laid his coat over a puddle for her steps, it meant he was guarding her feet. Nowadays, a gentleman might step between her and puddles kicked up by buses, or brace himself if a car drifts onto the sidewalk. Symbolically, this suggests he will always stand beside her through good times and bad, shielding her from harm.
3. He opens the door for her A gentleman would assist her into the carriage to show his protection and strength. Women held up their dresses because they were often long and heavy. The gentleman opened the door so she wouldn’t have to risk dropping her dress in the dirt. The modern gentleman helps her get in and out of the car, blocking off prying eyes from passersby. Opening a door isn’t about implying weakness; it’s an act of affection.
4. He never criticizes a home-cooked meal Speaking up negatively about food while dining as a guest was seen as rude to the host. If someone takes the time and trouble to prepare dinner, they are your host. Show them honor. Smile and eat.
5. He doesn’t LOL just for attention “Frequent and loud laughter is the characteristic of folly and ill-manners…”Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman (1746). While he might type “LOL” in texts today, a gentleman doesn’t need to be boisterous to command notice. He draws attention through his strong character.
6. He pulls out her chair It was customary for the gentleman to pull out her chair so she could face the open room. Today, the gentleman pulls out her seat and sits facing away from the crowd and TV because he doesn’t want to be distracted from what matters most when he forgets his Ritalin. [[Image: couple1.jpg]](the referenced community page)
7. He sits after she sits “…and at the table wait until she is seated, indeed wait until every lady is seated, before taking your own place” The Gentlemen’s Book of Etiquette, and Manual of Politeness (1860). Talk show hosts still follow this custom today by waiting to sit only after their guest has taken a seat. If Oprah does it, so can you.
8. He helps her put on/take off her coat Through the Edwardian era, women wore multiple layers and restrictive corsets underneath. A gentleman would assist his lady with putting on and removing her coat due to her limited mobility. Corsets aren’t as common now, but many women still appreciate a gentleman’s help.
9. He doesn’t walk ahead of her Because ladies wore long dresses that could cause tripping, the gentleman walked behind her when climbing stairs. Falling down a flight of steps isn’t an ideal way to conclude a date. Today, the gentleman observes this rule because she might be wearing high heels or a long dress. It’s another sign of his protection. However, if she wears a short skirt, she may prefer him to lead up the stairs.
10. He gives up his seat to her when standing is required A gentleman offers his seat to a lady on the bus or train if there are no other seats available. I’m looking at you…the guy who wouldn’t give up his spot for the pregnant woman.
11. He carries her bags A gentleman will help carry her luggage today, and when traveling by air, he’ll assist others with stowing their baggage in the overhead bins.
12. He picks up the check An English gentleman rarely split the bill with his date. The British used “go dutch” somewhat mockingly, stereotyping the Dutch as cheap or stingy. Today, the gentleman typically pays for everything, especially on a first date and without expecting anything in return.
13. He holds an umbrella over her when it rains It was common for younger people to hold umbrellas for elders. When rain falls, the gentleman keeps his umbrella over her and doesn’t mind getting damp (even if he’s quite famous like Leo). [[Image: leonardo.jpg]](the referenced community page) [[Image: 9c818eeb20e30b65af07e60d4ef46f63.jpg]](the referenced community page)
14. He gives her his jacket A gentleman pays attention, and if he sees she is shivering, he offers her his jacket.
15. He keeps her secrets A gentleman will always keep a secret, particularly one entrusted to him by the woman of his dreams. Even after a breakup, he remains trustworthy.
16. He walks her home or to safety A true gentleman continues to walk her to her car or front door today because he cares about her safety.
17. He listens to her “To be a good listener is as indispensable as to be a good talker…” The Gentlemen’s Book of Etiquette, and Manual of Politeness (1860). A gentleman always listens because he genuinely wants to understand her.
18. He’s on time Traffic doesn’t excuse lateness for dates. A reliable man plans ahead. Don’t leave her waiting.
19. He compliments her She spent considerable time preparing, so a gentleman is quick with praise. He avoids playing on her insecurities. Negging is reserved for creeps.
20. A gentleman never lies. A gentleman stands by his word.