Female led relationships discussion

My partner and I have been practicing FLR for a few months, and it seems to be going well for both of us.

We’ve set up a system that we’re still refining; I’d love to know about your setups and how they function?

We are best friends and partners who have dated for 4.5 years. We live together with my eight-year-old, and we both work full-time. We’ve always liked kink and D/S in the bedroom, but our last attempt at chastity failed completely because I don’t think he was ready, and I’m not sure I was either.

Our previous arrangement was roughly 50/50 for chores like cleaning and cooking; I managed most of the household tasks, kept track of everything, and tried to help him manage his responsibilities… it worked okay. We did argue sometimes because I’d get tired—working longer hours than he does while caring for our son—and I’d either get irritable feeling that he wasn’t pulling his weight or just stay quiet but miserable.

With our new arrangement, we’ve mostly been using the honour system; he wears the cage during the day and is moving toward wearing it at night as we find the right fit. I still handle housework and cooking, but a bit less than before, and I’m more likely to relax while he takes care of things compared to the past. If I need something done, I just ask him to do it, which removes much stress and endlessly reduces domestic friction. In bed, everything is up to me; when sex happens, how it happens, who finishes. He wouldn’t dare touch himself without asking.

So we’re a normal couple, but I’m in charge and sex is entirely on my terms.

We also have ‘Dog days’ where he acts more like a pampered pet. Long walks, perhaps fewer chores, maybe an increased chance of playing/finishing, lots of fussing and stroking, nice dinners made for him, plenty of time for hobbies—still no touching without permission, I remain in charge.

Then we have ‘King days’—this is full submission; my word is law. I can demand pampering, chores done, or anything else I want. This isn’t a huge jump from regular days—I think it just means being more formal, him staying quieter and taking less initiative, while I do fewer/no chores.

Then we have ‘partner days’, where we drop the sub/Dom roles and are simply equal friends and partners (still no touching or play without consent). There will be non-sexual days where we interact without FLR if one of us needs a break. We haven’t had one yet.

So:

1. What is your domestic dynamic regarding chores and daily life?
2. What does it feel like to receive treats/fuss when you are spoiled by your KH? Or how do your KHs spoil their pets?
3. What would you do for your KH on a ‘King Day’? What specific things would you do to pamper her, and how would this differ from your normal routine?