Female led relationships discussion

ok some of this is in my profile post. Been playing with this kink for 3-4 plus years but it has been insider and I been pushy. This is the main reason Princess Ejva is not really into it. She bought a rather expensive purse and I told her she need to work it off in the bed room before she opens it. She simply responded with no you are going to work it off with two months of denial. I was blown away. Now for the past few days I been in a cloud but remain quite to give her space. Key task of mine per her direction as well as I have to make her cum twice as soon as I get home. I bought a dildo gag as a way to make her cum and a sign she will have complete fulfillment while I am denied by her. Not in to cuckhold but basically cucked by dildo. I want to write her my deep dark desires accompanied by a “Ball Hook” send if ear rings as a sign she completely owns my balls. I will provide a link to the ear rings. If I do this is it too much too fast… I would need to make this a request with any sexual pleasure. Guidance please as I see this as an opening and I have learned my faults… maybe my last chance here.