Female led relationships discussion

Last night we talked about where our marriage is heading. The Queen asked if I was really serious about an FLR relationship. My reply was to ask her what she wanted, and she said yes. She explained that for it to work, we need to be fully immersed in the dynamic—not just sexually, but also financially and in almost every other area of our lives. We both believe this is right for us, so we are launching FLR 2.0. At its core, an FLR is a D/S relationship, one I don’t think we have truly experienced before. It should be interesting to see where it goes. How many of you take things beyond the bedroom? If you do, how much and in what ways?

Lucky, We have done some outside-bedroom dynamics but I need to improve my submission across all areas.

My wife feels the same way. When we decided to live this way, it was all or nothing for her. We practice this in the bedroom and every other room financially she is in charge giving me an allowance each week. Domestically I do all cooking and cleaning whether instructed or not She always knows where I am via a tracking phone app and what I am doing at home through cameras I need to ask permission to come and go Any deviations or missteps are met with discipline and correction. So, this is what we call a Domme/Slave relationship. It’s the best relationship I have ever been in Even though my freedom is limited it feels like the most free I have ever felt.

We tried going that way especially with household chores but it didn't work. She's a total Type A and discovered she likes to clean and generally doesn't want me doing it Every once in a while I get a long list of chores (clean all the toilets scrub the kitchen floor etc) which I have to do wearing cuffs though those are rare days.

For us it has spread from the bedroom but hasn’t permeated every aspect. I am still financially independent and for the most part decide how I spend my free time. I also make certain household decisions based on me running those areas. I organize and keep the kitchen how I like it though I do the cooking Laundry room is similar She defers to me on other things that are more informed by or fall under my domain such as outside projects etc. Discipline used to be more frequent but honestly hasn’t come up in quite some time although threats of it still happen every once in a while. She is all or nothing when it comes to sexual control: no part-time and little breaks, no switching roles or expectations. She isn’t into full-out dictatorship and we share each other’s skills making decisions based on our needs.

just make sure you have a plan B if she suddenly goes overboard. Remember as the sub you ultimately have control.

> mcfeely said: > just make sure you have a plan b if she suddenly goes overboard. Remember as the sub you ultimatly have control. > Click to expand... Sorry I don’t really give much credence to the whole “I can refuse anytime I want so I’m the one calling the shots” theory. As far as a plan B...I’m married it’s all about plan A If she were to go overboard we would discuss it and work something out. Your continued reluctance to give her control is matched only by your perseverance to remain interested in the subject.

Were I living with or in close proximity to my KH that is something I would like to explore much more fully.

My wife and I live in a highly wife led marriage. As she has gained confidence she has extended her control into most all financial decisions (I must ask for any single purchase over $100); partial control over my free time (I must advise/ask permission to visit a neighbor go to the store turn on the television etc); doles most household chores to me (I do the laundry and ironing floors bathrooms dusting bed making most of the dish washing and at least 50% of the cooking); she is working on making decisions regarding our life choices (she has decided the last two vacation locations I am given the task to make it happen however while we are both involved in selecting a location to retire ultimately her decision will be where we land up); and certainly she is inn 100% control over our intimate life (she is the one who decided it was time for locking me). In addition she has found I respond well to physical discipline and has also found that she enjoys the physical and mental relief that disciplining me affords her. We started practicing male chastity as an aftermath of our FLR. She tells me she likes the feeling of total control she gets by locking me It has taken three years of total commitment by me to restore her self confidence to the point where she has assumed the mantle of control and told me last October to by a chastity device I have been in it nearly 100% of the time since although she does let me out for daily exercise and hygiene as well as some of our play times. I haven't orgasmed in well over a month and that one she directed me to masturbated in front of her yet al the while I am happily giving her two to three orgasms a week. It seems that her New Years Resolution is to become more directive and less tolerant of my lapses She says she didn't make a resolution but since the first of the month I have noticed a big change She is not less loving she has a huge heart for sure But so far in 2019 it is like a light switch has been flipped Her dominance over my life has amped up as she is less reluctant to direct me to do things for her or our family. She is adamant we will never go back to an "equal" partnership I do not feel slighted in the least I have never been happier and or more satisfied with my life.

Our FLR evolved over a number of years after discovering Male chastity and denial While locked I feel naturally more submissive and D has responded by becoming more dominant Our FLR extends well outside the bedroom and is on display at all times. D now expects all the trapping of being a goddess opening car doors pulling out her seat ordering from the menu for both of us. I always assist with housework without being asked but D also contributes her share of labour to these types of tasks If at anytime her command is not met with enthusiasm then it will transfer back to the bedroom where her fun whipping and spanking sessions that end with her having orgasms become real punishment and the after whipping fun is not offered. This is a very happy place for me and I know D would never go back to a vanilla relationship.