Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I’ve been on a long run now. I locked up when we returned from our holiday on January 5th. Since then, I have pulled out quite often, but only for cleaning.

Today marked the first time since my run began that I pulled out to clean and afterwards rubbed myself. Usually, this goes on for such a long duration until I climax—either right when I pull out to rub or within a few hours or days later. However, if I do it early (to cheat), I won’t last longer than just a few hours at best, especially with constant cheating.

This time around, I put him back and hope I can stay strong. This is why I so desperately want a PA Piercing.

What about you? Do you pull out? Can you physically do it? Do you use the ability to play? If so, have you had an unauthorized orgasm?

You should also consider: can you pull out but not put him back in again? Quite a few people fall into the category where pulling out works fine, but putting it back is difficult. Meaning if you pull out, you are technically caught!

Not really practicing chastity in my view. I promise I won’t touch myself; it’s quite different from saying I *can't* touch myself. You have to make up your own mind about that, but if I could, I would.

> steph17 said: > Not really chastity in my view. I promise I won’t touch myself; it’s quite different from saying I *can't* touch yourself. You have to make up your own mind about that, but if I could, I would. > Click to expand... It isn’t very polite to casually insult anyone who doesn’t practice chastity the way you feel is correct by stating they aren’t really doing it properly. If they are not playing with themselves without permission (and 'play' can be defined however you wish), then they *are* practicing chastity, whether they use a physical device or rely entirely on willpower.

I also don’t believe in criticizing others for their specific way of practicing chastity. That said, from personal experience, having better security and being honest with your Keyholder will make the entire experience more fulfilling and exhilarating. Almost any device still requires you to resist cheating; some just make it much harder and less rewarding.

Sounds like a bit more self-control is required!

I can pull out, but I choose not to.

I don't know. I have never tried pulling out in the last three years. It seems like a waste of money to buy an expensive device only to try and circumvent it later. That may just be my personal view.

> LockedPom said: > Sounds like a bit more self-control is required! > Click to expand... I’m still pretty proud of myself. I went from being a chronic PMO addict to three weeks without play and for over a year without any type of porn. I tried to honestly describe my issue and wanted to see if others share the same challenges. Anyway, yesterday it was out only for a minute. I managed to stay strong; the PA is planned.

> Bertdido said: > I can pull out, but I choose not to. > Click to expand... You never did it? Just that one time to try? How long was your longest run without play?

> Blue Moon said: > I also don’t believe in criticizing others for their specific way of practicing chastity. That said, from personal experience, having better security and being honest with your Keyholder will make the entire experience more fulfilling and exhilarating. Almost any device still requires you to resist cheating; some just make it much harder and less rewarding. > Click to expand... Thanks. I have an amazing keyholder and we discuss these things.. I still call my behavior 'cheating' because she doesn't authorize that specific action.. She is on board for the PA though.

> KatlynAshe said: > You should also consider: can you pull out but not put him back in again? Quite a few people fall into the category where pulling out works fine, but putting it back is difficult. Meaning if you pull out, you are technically caught! > Click to expand... My thought is what comes out goes back in, no?;)