Introductions discussion

Greetings everyone. I’m a man in my forties, new here but familiar with chastity life. I came to this site to connect with others who share similar interests (whether you’re the dominant or submissive side).

My current setup is something I’d call unique and almost like watching porn, though it’s real life. A few years back, I brought up dominating me to my wife. I was just dipping into the BDSM/FLR scene but went about it poorly by imposing my kinks on her immediately. She wasn’t keen at first and didn’t mention it again until a year later when she asked if this really mattered deeply to me. By then, my interest had turned almost addictive.

I explained myself, and she proposed we consult a professional Dominant woman (pro-Domme). I hesitated initially, but she insisted, wanting to see what truly drove me. Humiliation is right up my alley, yet that particular experience was the most mortifying of my life. Feel free to PM me if you want the gory details.

We visited her several times until she grasped that domination extends beyond just sex and sexual duties. Once she got it, we looked for a Domme who wouldn’t cost us money in fees. It sounded like an amazing fantasy, but I held off because I feared it might damage our marriage. After lots of talks, we began attending munches (meetups) where we found a Domme whose vibe matched ours.

After some more discussion, my wife asked this new Domme to take control while she was present. Again, wonderfully humiliating. Initially, my wife stayed in the room but didn’t participate. After a couple of months, she stopped coming in entirely. Now I serve as Goddess K’s slave and remain mostly vanilla with my wife. I keep these two worlds separate unless called upon otherwise.

My wife communicates regularly with Goddess K; they’ve grown quite friendly. It’s certainly a complex dynamic, but it suits us well.