Female led relationships discussion

I was in the middle of a quick edging session when my wife suddenly wondered if I wanted to release. Usually, I’d jump at the chance right away because it’s so hard for me to hold back. But this time, I told her it was up to her decision, and she agreed that settled it, stopping before I could finish (no orgasm).

Later on, I had to ask if my response of it’s up to you was the correct thing to say. She confirmed yes because she wants me to handle things for her efficiency.

This brought back memories of all those times during my training when I was given the option to orgasm and accepted it, only for her to tease me about winning with phrases like “You win yourself; you always do.” Even though I’d counter with “But you gave me permission,” she would still maintain that I had won.

So apparently, saying “it’s up to you” was the right move this time. By the way, it was actually my wife who started our chastity journey a few years back.

Has anyone else gone through something like this?

> buildup said: > I was in the middle of a quick edging session when my wife suddenly wondered if I wanted to release. Usually, I'd jump at the chance right away because it's so hard for me to hold back. But this time, I told her it was up to her decision, and she agreed that settled it, stopping before I could finish (no **orgasm**). > > Later on, I had to ask if my response of *it’s up to you* was the correct thing to say. She confirmed yes because she wants me to handle things for her efficiency. > > This brought back memories of all those times during my training when I was given the option to **orgasm** and accepted it, only for her to tease me about winning with phrases like *"You win yourself; you always do."* Even though I’d counter with *"But you gave me permission,"* she would still maintain that I had won. > > So apparently, saying "it's up to you" was the right move this time. By the way, it was actually my wife who started our **chastity** journey a few years back. > > Has anyone else gone through something like this? > > Click to expand... I believe most of us here don't really have much choice in these matters. In my situation, she treats me as her toy and does with it as she pleases.

I wish I could actually see the expression on my own face when she asks. Perhaps because at that moment, I genuinely don't know what the answer is. There are all sorts of emotions and needs involved. Physically, naturally, I want to finish, but I also don’t want this state to end. I have my desires met, yet I respect her wishes too. I think she enjoys seeing me confused lol. Ultimately, it's just a question, and how I answer probably doesn't change the outcome much.