Female led relationships discussion

Greetings. I would like to understand what you men are gaining from your female-led relationships and how those benefits come about. Many of the discussions focus on sexual pleasure, explaining how chastity or controlled orgasm situations help couples mutually. It is clear that a keyholder or domme often enjoys fewer chores, which boosts everyone’s happiness… But what do you guys get out of it? I was recently inspired by reading a post from a man who consulted a professional domme to improve areas like his diet and exercise routine. I would truly appreciate hearing your insights on what else a woman taking charge can offer beyond the sexual realm.

It makes me a better person. I focus entirely on her needs, whether they are sexual or not. What do I get? The happiness of being a superior husband and man.

It has made me much more disciplined. I have lost over 30 pounds gradually and started running. I am also more social and better at talking to both women and men.

> shannonsanders said: > It has made me much more disciplined. I have lost over 30 pounds gradually and started running. I am also more social and better at talking to both women and men. > Click to expand... Thank you for your reply. Could you share a bit about how this was achieved?

> Ms Amanda said: > Thank you for your reply. Could you share a bit about how this was achieved? > Click to expand... Eventually, my Wife realized that I am happier when I have outlets as a submissive, and she could use this to her advantage. We started branching out into more than just sex within our BDSM dynamic. There was no magic bullet; it has been a gradual work in progress. We have been together for the last 20 years, but we only focused on this aspect over the last few years. Part of this might be because we finally saw a kink-friendly therapist after many years with a vanilla marriage counselor. The vanilla therapist helped us through a rough patch, but our sex life didn't progress much. A dominatrix recommended the kink-friendly sex therapist to us. Lol. That therapist then suggested a new dominatrix when the old one moved away and introduced us to a club we could join. Does that seem strange? My wife has always noticed I am in a better mood and listen better when denied, but we have pushed further with it. This seems non-sexual---but she made me join a weight loss program and run. I feel like I would disappoint her if I failed at them. It gave me the discipline to focus on each day without imposing obligations on her. Because I joined a running club, I had to become more social within that group. We meet only once a month, so I am not very social with other runners outside of that time. But it has given me a place to work on my listening skills. I have also tried to find easy little tasks---like making the bed. I haven't wanked in over a year. We are not completely strict about chastity, but my "releases" have become increasingly restricted. For the last year, it has been either a ruined hand job or sex, mostly ruined hand jobs. Full intercourse has become less common. I have been cuckolded by women. My wife would like to try it with a man sometime. That scares me a little more.

Hmm. I've wondered about this myself. It is all quite counter-intuitive, isn't it? Men being locked up and not allowed to cum while serving their partners! All I can say is that I enjoy it and so does Mrs Chaste! Our FLR is still developing and seems to be working well for us. Like most things in life, there isn't a particularly right or wrong way; just one that works for both parties! Mrs Chaste is very much a "traditional" wife. She looks after her husband and ensures I'm fed, watered, and happy. She has always been ready to experiment with things and has certainly been more than happy with me in my Chaste state. The move towards a more FLR is still progressing at a speed dictated by Mrs Chaste. What do I get from it? So many things on so many levels! I am still amazed that Mrs Chaste is prepared to invest so much time and effort into something that was basically my idea! She has said there is no going back as our marriage gets better the further we go. I know one thing: although I might have planted the initial idea, now it's growing with Mrs Chaste leading!

> shannonsanders said: > Eventually, my Wife realized that I am happier when I have outlets as a submissive, and she could use this to her advantage. We started branching out into more than just sex within our BDSM dynamic. There was no magic bullet; it has been a gradual work in progress. > > Part of this might be because we finally saw a kink-friendly therapist after many years with a vanilla marriage counselor. The vanilla therapist helped us through a rough patch, but our sex life didn't progress much. A dominatrix recommended the kink-friendly sex therapist to us. Lol. That therapist then suggested a new dominatrix when the old one moved away and introduced us to a club we could join. Does that seem strange? > > My wife has always noticed I am in a better mood and listen better when denied, but we have pushed further with it. > > This seems non-sexual---but she made me join a weight loss program and run. I feel like I would disappoint her if I failed at them. It gave me the discipline to focus on each day without imposing obligations on her. Because I joined a running club, I had to become more social within that group. We meet only once a month, so I am not very social with other runners outside of that time. But it has given me a place to work on my listening skills. I have also tried to find easy little tasks---like making the bed. > > I haven't wanked in over a year. We are not completely strict about chastity, but my "releases" have become increasingly restricted. For the last year, it has been either a ruined hand job or sex, mostly ruined hand jobs. Full intercourse has become less common. > > I have been cuckolded by women. My wife would like to try it with a man sometime. That scares me a little more. > Click to expand... Thank you so much for opening up. I'm interested in the fact that intercourse has reduced for you. Are you happy with your sex life? Did you masturbate regularly prior to changing your lifestyle? And I love the idea of creating a running programme. People are often reluctant to start new things, but a change and regular routine can be life-changing, even if it is under duress.