Female led relationships discussion

Hello. We are tying the knot this summer (yes!) and I wanted to gather suggestions for fun additions we can bring into an FLM dynamic, rather than just sticking with our current FLR setup. This could apply to the wedding itself, the honeymoon, or anything else.

As noted, we already have a sort of FLR in place. My fiancée thinks it’s obvious and enjoys all the benefits; she is quite smart, hehe. We are eager to add new elements while keeping things from becoming stale.

Just off the top of my head, I’d like to wear a cage during our wedding ceremony. Following up on comments others made in previous threads about marriage, I could include a pledge of obedience in my vows. Additionally, we’ve agreed that I will adopt her mother’s surname (her maiden name), which makes me happy because it shows I am truly following the female lineage of her family. Her mum is very fond of this idea.

We are also looking into some form of sole financial ownership for her assets, while I continue to handle the day-to-day money management as she prefers to delegate that task. This part is still in early talks though. If anyone has advice on this aspect, it would be appreciated.

She is nicely arranging an intimate rite of submission specifically for me. She understands how strong my submissive side towards her is and wants to create a special evening where she claims me as her possession and asks me to submit to her forever. This idea comes from one of my long-held fantasies that I shared with her ages ago.

Do you have any other suggestions? We are looking for realistic ideas since our wedding will appear quite traditional (vanilla) to most guests, etc. I am careful not to dictate too much myself but there is no harm in hearing what others suggest and how they incorporated their own elements into marriage celebrations.

I am so delighted by your news; congratulations to you and your fiancée! I completely agree with the ideas of taking her name, wearing a cage during the wedding, and pledging obedience. Regarding finances and other matters, please ensure our kink does not interfere with practicality. In my view, you should adopt a financial structure in your wife-led marriage that mirrors traditional marriages—no more and no less than what is suitable for a modern union.

Quick question: does your future mother-in-law know about your FLR? Since you are taking your wife's last name, could her mother be involved in a ceremony together with the two of you privately? It would serve as something like a blessing for your new life. This might make things easier long-term if she understands why you act so submissive.

> MissyB said: > Quick question: does your future mother-in-law know about your FLR? Since you are taking your wife's last name, could her mother be involved in a ceremony together with the two of you privately? It would serve as something like a blessing for your new life. This might make things easier long-term if she understands why you act so submissive. > Click to expand... I don’t believe she knows the specific terms, but she is aware of our lifestyle setup because when I am at their home, I do all the chores for my partner. Her mother also asks me to handle tasks and has joked about it many times. My partner even teased her that it is nice having a man 'under the thumb,' and she laughed, saying it was wonderful and high time. However, I wouldn’t want to force my future mother-in-law into an awkward situation regarding more explicit FLM elements. But if she observes and enjoys seeing my acts of service, then everything will be fine.

Although @MissyB you make a good point about taking her name. Perhaps I should prepare a special meal for both of them and thank her for allowing me to take her surname.