Female led relationships discussion

My partner just mentioned he feels like he’s currently a ‘3’ and wants to reach ‘103 on a scale into FLR - I’m not wording it very well (go from 1 to 100 makes more sense) He wants more, to deepen the FLR we recently started. I know some take it to quite an extreme with regards to FLR - demanding passwords etc. Once we live together I’ll advise that we need a joint bank account. He’s going through cage fitting for chasity at the moment. He usually cooks, he makes my coffee and I will when required make demands over various things. I remind him that he’s lucky I’m prepared to be/want to be his keyholder and life partner. What are the easiest steps to take to deepen the FLR power shift? Whilst remaining vanilla to the outside world? He wants a full power shift, to me. I have to admit to loving it and being flattered, what woman wouldn’t! This is all new to me and its something he’s wanted for as long as he can remember and is only now with someone who makes him comfortable enough to divulge.. Thanks in advance for an insight:)

Not sure I can give you reliable insight, but what an amazing story... Love it!

Its not something that happens overnight to make yourself assertive, dominating if you aren't that person, especially if it is with someone you care for. Not only do you need to be dominant, but it helps when your partner is submissive. Work on both aspects. Set aside an hour or two, even a whole weekend when you both work hard at your respective roles. An hour or two is easier and can be done within the home or even outside. Focus on being picky - make him walk behind you, open doors for you, take your coat off. In private use one word commands where normally a sentence would do i.e. "coffee" and not "could you fetch me a coffee". Work on "the look" so when out, give him "the look" that tells him that he should be opening that door, getting you a drink, paying for the meal etc. Take a note of infringements, better still get him to to it. Review them frequently and punishment for them - style/type/level of punishment is completely at your discretion. Ask him what punishment you think is deserved, you'll probably find out that it is way beyond what you had considered. Remember that after the punishment the slate is wiped clean and an embrace/hug is welcome. In our relationship Lady C calls MOST of the shots, sometimes She puts that onus onto me when She tells me to decide. Somethings we have agreed are well outwith the FLR decision making process - i.e. mortgages, health. End of the day its your relationship, make it what you both want. A

> GoddessG said: > My partner a few minutes ago said he feels as if he is currently 3 and wants to be 103 on a scale into FLR - I'm not wording it very well (go from 1 to 100 makes more sense) > He wants more, to deepen the FLR we recently started. > I know some take it to quite an extreme with regards to FLR - demanding passwords etc. > Once we live together I'll advise that we need a joint bank account. > He's going through cage fitting for chasity at the moment. > He usually cooks, he makes my coffee and I will when required make demands over various things. I remind him that he's lucky I'm prepared to be/want to be his keyholder and life partner. > What are the easiest steps to take to deepen the FLR power shift? Whilst remaining vanilla to the outside world? He wants a full power shift, to me. > I have to admit to loving it and being flattered, what woman wouldn't! This is all new to me and its something he's wanted for as long as he can remember and is only now with someone who makes him comfortable enough to divulge.. > Thanks in advance for an insight:) > Click to expand... Sound to me like you are well on your way. I would suggest you read as much as possible. Read threads on here, read some fictional stories, and read some books about FLR’s. It takes time so be patient and enjoy the journey together.