Female led relationships discussion
For anyone unfamiliar with the background: I run my own construction company, and the office is connected to our home. Since 2009, my wife has been the only…
For anyone unfamiliar with the background: I run my own construction company, and the office is connected to our home. Since 2009, my wife has been the only other person working there alongside me as my admin assistant. It isn’t her preferred career path, but it made sense given the economic climate during the recession when we started, and it worked out well for both of us individually and as a family. She usually works no more than 15 hours weekly, leaving plenty of room to stay active with our kids and maintain a healthy social life. When chastity entered the picture and evolved into an FLR a few years ago, it added some complexity to our work dynamic at times, but we managed it.
Recently, she got a chance for a well-paying role in her preferred field and decided to take it. She’s been hired, and while I’m happy for her, I’m also feeling a bit anxious about how this affects us and our lifestyle moving forward. She’ll be working full-time away from the house. We haven’t had excessive afternoon fun before, but there was some of that too. Beyond the dominance/submission aspect, it simply means I’ll have less time with her overall.
The optimist in me views this as a chance for her to step up at work and strengthen her leadership within our FLR. It might also mean I can slowly wind down my business over the next few years and become a stay-at-home dad. This would free me from the alpha persona I wear at work, which sometimes feels unnatural to me personally. Even though we’ll see less of each other in terms of quantity, the quality of our interaction could improve as she grows stronger and I have more freedom to embrace my true self.
The pessimist argues this might signal the end for our Chastity and FLR arrangement. She already finds it hard to carve out time for her role in our relationship, and now she’s adding over 30 hours of work a week. She may become too exhausted to participate, making everything feel like a chore rather than something enjoyable. We rarely do much when the kids are home anyway, and now she’ll likely be gone just as they start staying out more.
Time will reveal what happens next, but regardless, I’m genuinely happy for her. She’s thrilled about this new job after spending over ten years doing work that wasn’t entirely fulfilling to support the family. She deserves it, and I plan to back her up however I can—including potentially stepping away from this lifestyle if or when necessary.
Best of luck! Hopefully your optimistic side is correct. The most likely outcome is probably somewhere in between the two extremes.
Honestly, I believe it’s better if you retain control of the company while letting her manage everything else. Giving up that controlling edge might not be great for your business in the worst-case scenario; she could lose a bit of respect from others. That said, I understand there is an appeal to handing over power and finding relief in someone else taking charge. In my view, you’d do yourself well by holding onto this particular aspect. However, you could still grant her authority if she makes decisions or disciplines you for errors related to her within the business context. Just my two cents; I had similar thoughts.
It seems like you are prioritizing FLR over your wife's career. Be happy for her and offer support. Focus on what benefits her most rather than worrying about what you might lose.
> John said: > Honestly, I believe it’s better if you retain control of the company while letting her manage everything else. Giving up that controlling edge might not be great for your business in the worst-case scenario; she could lose a bit of respect from others. That said, I understand there is an appeal to handing over power and finding relief in someone else taking charge. In my view, you’d do yourself well by holding onto this particular aspect. However, you could still grant her authority if she makes decisions or disciplines you for errors related to her within the business context. Just my two cents; I had similar thoughts > Click to expand... I think there’s a misunderstanding here. She is taking a job in *her* field. How does that impact his company?
She will feel valued as an individual due to the good pay and increased satisfaction from her new role: you simply need to be happy for your wife. The Chastity dynamics & your doubts about FLR should remain in the background. Just rejoice in her success.