Female led relationships discussion

Has anyone of you actually received real punishment? Not just something pleasant, but something that makes you really want to fix whatever behavior annoyed her? I see many KH members saying the best way is to ignore us, but I don’t think it works well for me because it’s too passive and cold. I admit, I enjoy some pain. But if my wife gets upset and decides to use a paddle for a serious spanking, I would DEFINITELY think twice before making her angry again Please share your experiences with serious punishments!

I do. Punishments reinforce the rules she sets. My wife is very loving and caring most of the time (99%), but push her too far and I know what’s coming. Talking back is my biggest weakness; smart comments often lead to me being strapped to the bed for a caning or strapping. It isn’t for everyone, but it works well for us. Like you, I appreciate some discipline. It always feels exciting until she fastens that last restraint and delivers her first cane strike. Then I just want it to end!!

My wife and I have both playful “punishments” and more serious ones. Our playful punishments usually involve paddling, whipping, or flogging. They are still painful for me, but they are short and sexual in nature. The not-so-playful punishments last longer, hurt much more, and aren’t sexual at all. The physical beatings often leave me teary-eyed and begging her to stop. Besides beatings, I also receive a wide variety of other punishments: restriction from things I enjoy, various forms of confinement, or ice-cold showers. I don’t know anyone who enjoys being forced into ice-cold showers! Most of my non-playful punishments come from giving my wife attitude or forgetting to do something she asked.

So far, the spankings I’ve received are sufficient. Just knowing that a spanking is needed helps me remember. However, I haven’t had many yet, and she remains somewhat reluctant to punish me so far.

My punishments are usually funishments cranked up to the maximum. For example, one punishment involved being tied spread eagle with icy hot applied to my penis, clamps on my nipples and penile tip, plus a fairly severe whipping of my thighs and stomach. I was certainly compliant for quite some time after that.