Female led relationships discussion

My wife and I have practiced FLR and chastity for 15 years of our 15-year marriage, similar to other couples whose dynamic fluctuates over time. We oscillate between being a strict mistress/slave pair and just a regular couple handling daily life with the kids. Recently, we’ve renewed our commitment to remaining Mistress and slave permanently rather than returning to vanilla living. This arrangement suits us both perfectly. My wife enjoys having me as her slave, yet we want to establish a solid set of rules to support this lifestyle. Here are some general concepts (avoiding legal jargon) so far:

1. I will stay in chastity continuously. Even if she allows me out for cleaning or pleasure, I return immediately. She holds the absolute right to use my penis as much or as little as she wishes.
2. Obey her at all times.
3. She can inflict pain on me for any reason, and I must remain willing, not blocking her, not flinching, and expressing gratitude.
4. She may have sex with other men if she decides to (though realistically, it probably won’t happen often or perhaps never in the near future; we appreciate having that right).
5. I make the bed every day. I prepare supper and look after the kids in the evenings.
6. I manage the finances on her behalf, but she has complete freedom regarding our money since it is hers, not mine. I must ask permission to spend any of it.
7. Sex centers on her pleasure. I should be submissive and giving, doing my best to please her. Never cum without permission.
8. I must ask permission to sleep in her bed; if denied, I sleep on the floor of the walk-in closet. OK, what other ideas do you have for rules? Especially ones that add excitement or prevent us from drifting away from FLR. Maybe I need to wear panties on non-workdays? Please share your thoughts.

> Slave to Wife said: > My wife and I have practiced FLR and chastity for 15 years of our 15-year marriage. Like other folks, it waxes and wanes. Sometimes, we're totally mistress and slave and other times just a vanilla couple, raising kids and making ends meet. > > Lately, we have a renewed dedication to being Mistress and slave and never going back to vanilla. This is what we both prefer. My wife likes having me be her slave, but we both want to create a really good set of rules to help. > > Some general ideas (not written in lawyer talk) so far are: > 1. I will be in chastity always. Even if she lets me out for pleasure or cleaning, I go right back in. She has the absolute right to use my penis a lot or never again. > 2. Obey her always. > > 3. She may inflict pain on me for any purpose, and I must be willing to not block her, not flinch and be grateful. > > 4. She may have sex with other men if she chooses. (In reality, she likely won't, or at least not for many years, but we like that she has the right.) > 5. I make the bed daily. I make supper and care for kids in the evenings. > > 6. I manage the finances on her behalf, but she can do whatever she wants when it comes to our money. It is hers, not mine. I must ask permission to spend it. > 7. Sex is about her pleasure. I should be submissive and giving and do my best to please her. Never cum without permission. > > 8. I must ask permission to sleep in her bed. If I am not allowed, I am to sleep on the floor of the walk-in closet. > OK, any other ideas for rules? Especially ones that spice it up. Or keep us from drifting away from FLR. Maybe I have to wear panties on non-workdays? Throw your ideas out there, please. > > Click to expand... The substance of the rules is fine; but beware of piling rule upon rule and ending up with what looks like the T&Cs of an insurance document. I would advise you to reduce the number of rules while maintaining the spirit of what you have here. So read the rules then shred the agreement. I can tell you now that if I had not mentioned it, a pedant would have questioned how a slave could agree to a contract (though they might still); but I don't really mind: I understand what you're trying to do.

> buildup said: > The substance of the rules are fine; but beware of piling rule upon rule and ending up with what looks like the T&Cs of an insurance document. I would advise you to reduce the rules; but maintain the spirit of what you have here. So read the rules then shred the agreement. > I can tell you now that If I had not mentioned it a pedant would have questioned how a slave could agree a contract (they might still); but I don't really mind: I get what you're trying to do. > > Click to expand... Yep. We used to have contracts and rules. Now she just locks me and unlocks me as she wants. When I’m locked I’m her slave. Simple as that.

These rules aren't overly strict or perfect. They are mainly for kinky fun. Just have fun with the community ideas. Maybe people are afraid of being criticized for tossing out their suggestions.

Rules may be a bit of a loaded word; we use “routines”. For example, we had a routine where I would go down on her and worship her pussy and ass every night or the next morning. Our schedule changed so this was impractical so we have since ended that routine, but she loved it while it lasted. Another one is I rub her feet with lotion every evening. I make her coffee and lunch every morning, I start her car in the winter, and I am her maid once a week and try to work in giving her a bath and give a massage. She tried to instigate a maintenance spanking routine, but it kinda fell off the table with our schedule. Whatever works for her and what she enjoys should be great.

Hey, thanks. That's a good post.