Female led relationships discussion
I suppose like many wives and girlfriends, my husband would often bother me for sex or just touch me whenever I was putting on or taking off clothes. Now I…
I suppose like many wives and girlfriends, my husband would often bother me for sex or just touch me whenever I was putting on or taking off clothes. Now I am a woman who enjoys being feminine, which to me means wearing nice lingerie, dresses, skirts, usually stockings or hold-ups, and of course good shoes. As all the men reading this are likely thinking, consider this an invitation for them to leer, comment, or perhaps touch any lady making an effort with her appearance.\nTrust me, boys, this isn’t about you but about me - it makes me feel good and boosts my confidence. Whether it turns you on is incidental in my book and more importantly your concern. Which brings us back to where I was at the start of the year regarding my husband. We have practiced chastity for several years now, but only in the last twelve months has been serious about its use. He spends longer periods in the cage each time, and since roughly Christmas he has worn it 24/7. The issue for me was that his behavior whenever I dressed or undressed became tiresome; honestly, he became something of a pest. A good friend suggested that as part of his chastity routine I stop letting him see me in a state of undress or nude. So somewhat reluctantly I decided to cease dressing in the bedroom at the start or end of the day. This meant my husband could no longer watch me without clothes. At first he was grumpy, and I had to be firm that his own behavior led to this decision. It didn’t change his behavior instantly, but over a few weeks it sank in for him that he no longer had free access to my body; rather, it is a privilege I grant when I decide. The result is that he has become much more respectful; the leers, comments, and unsolicited touching are gone. As an occasional treat, I do give him a ‘flash’ of a stocking top or bra. And when he behaves well, I will lift my skirt and let him kiss me through my knickers.
Oh wow, how truly amazing
> MsTara said: > I suppose like many wives and girlfriends, my husband would often bother me for sex or just touch me whenever I was putting on or taking off clothes. > Now I am a woman who enjoys being feminine, which to me means wearing nice lingerie, dresses, skirts, usually stockings or hold-ups, and of course good shoes. > As all the men reading this are likely thinking, consider this an invitation for them to leer, comment, or perhaps touch any lady making an effort with her appearance. > Trust me, boys, this isn't about you but about me - it makes me feel good and boosts my confidence. Whether it turns you on is incidental in my book and more importantly your concern. > Which brings us back to where I was at the start of the year regarding my husband. We have practiced chastity for several years now, but only in the last twelve months has been serious about its use. He spends longer periods in the cage each time, and since roughly Christmas he has worn it 24/7. > The issue for me was that his behavior whenever I dressed or undressed became tiresome; honestly, he became something of a pest. A good friend suggested that as part of his chastity routine I stop letting him see me in a state of undress or nude. > So somewhat reluctantly I decided to cease dressing in the bedroom at the start or end of the day. This meant my husband could no longer watch me without clothes. At first he was grumpy, and I had to be firm that his own behavior led to this decision. > It didn't change his behavior instantly, but over a few weeks it sank in for him that he no longer had free access to my body; rather, it is a privilege I grant when I decide. The result is that he has become much more respectful; the leers, comments, and unsolicited touching are gone. > As an occasional treat, I do give him a 'flash' of a stocking top or bra. And when he behaves well, I will lift my skirt and let him kiss me through my knickers. > Click to expand... I don’t like men who disrespect women. I'm sure he didn't mean to make you uncomfortable or be disrespectful, but that's what it was. I’m so glad that he’s learning that you not only deserve respect but will ensure that you get it. So kudos to you for seeing this and taking corrective action. I’d also like to say I’m sorry. I know I didn’t do this myself, but I feel bad that you were made to feel bad. Please know some of us really do respect women. And I’m glad your husband is joining our ranks.
> MsTara said: > I suppose like many wives and girlfriends, my husband would often bother me for sex or just touch me whenever I was putting on or taking off clothes. > Now I am a woman who enjoys being feminine, which to me means wearing nice lingerie, dresses, skirts, usually stockings or hold-ups, and of course good shoes. > As all the men reading this are likely thinking, consider this an invitation for them to leer, comment, or perhaps touch any lady making an effort with her appearance. > Trust me, boys, this isn't about you but about me - it makes me feel good and boosts my confidence. Whether it turns you on is incidental in my book and more importantly your concern. > Which brings us back to where I was at the start of the year regarding my husband. We have practiced chastity for several years now, but only in the last twelve months has been serious about its use. He spends longer periods in the cage each time, and since roughly Christmas he has worn it 24/7. > The issue for me was that his behavior whenever I dressed or undressed became tiresome; honestly, he became something of a pest. A good friend suggested that as part of his chastity routine I stop letting him see me in a state of undress or nude. > So somewhat reluctantly I decided to cease dressing in the bedroom at the start or end of the day. This meant my husband could no longer watch me without clothes. At first he was grumpy, and I had to be firm that his own behavior led to this decision. > It didn't change his behavior instantly, but over a few weeks it sank in for him that he no longer had free access to my body; rather, it is a privilege I grant when I decide. The result is that he has become much more respectful; the leers, comments, and unsolicited touching are gone. > As an occasional treat, I do give him a 'flash' of a stocking top or bra. And when he behaves well, I will lift my skirt and let him kiss me through my knickers. > Click to expand... An excellent idea. Males need to realize they have to work for everything and not feel entitled.
> MsTara said: > I suppose like many wives and girlfriends, my husband would often bother me for sex or just touch me whenever I was putting on or taking off clothes. > Now I am a woman who enjoys being feminine, which to me means wearing nice lingerie, dresses, skirts, usually stockings or hold-ups, and of course good shoes. > As all the men reading this are likely thinking, consider this an invitation for them to leer, comment, or perhaps touch any lady making an effort with her appearance. > Trust me, boys, this isn't about you but about me - it makes me feel good and boosts my confidence. Whether it turns you on is incidental in my book and more importantly your concern. > Which brings us back to where I was at the start of the year regarding my husband. We have practiced chastity for several years now, but only in the last twelve months has been serious about its use. He spends longer periods in the cage each time, and since roughly Christmas he has worn it 24/7. > The issue for me was that his behavior whenever I dressed or undressed became tiresome; honestly, he became something of a pest. A good friend suggested that as part of his chastity routine I stop letting him see me in a state of undress or nude. > So somewhat reluctantly I decided to cease dressing in the bedroom at the start or end of the day. This meant my husband could no longer watch me without clothes. At first he was grumpy, and I had to be firm that his own behavior led to this decision. > It didn't change his behavior instantly, but over a few weeks it sank in for him that he no longer had free access to my body; rather, it is a privilege I grant when I decide. The result is that he has become much more respectful; the leers, comments, and unsolicited touching are gone. > As an occasional treat, I do give him a 'flash' of a stocking top or bra. And when he behaves well, I will lift my skirt and let him kiss me through my knickers. > Click to expand... My mistress likes the attention I pay her when she’s naked but chastity has changed how I think about this. I see it more as a gift and privilege to see her naked versus some sort of archaic marital right. So I still get to look with her approval, of course, but the context has shifted because me looking at her like that is just as much for her benefit as it is for mine. If that makes any sense:)
> MsTara said: > I suppose like many wives and girlfriends, my husband would often bother me for sex or just touch me whenever I was putting on or taking off clothes. > Now I am a woman who enjoys being feminine, which to me means wearing nice lingerie, dresses, skirts, usually stockings or hold-ups, and of course good shoes. > As all the men reading this are likely thinking, consider this an invitation for them to leer, comment, or perhaps touch any lady making an effort with her appearance. > Trust me, boys, this isn't about you but about me - it makes me feel good and boosts my confidence. Whether it turns you on is incidental in my book and more importantly your concern. > Which brings us back to where I was at the start of the year regarding my husband. We have practiced chastity for several years now, but only in the last twelve months has been serious about its use. He spends longer periods in the cage each time, and since roughly Christmas he has worn it 24/7. > The issue for me was that his behavior whenever I dressed or undressed became tiresome; honestly, he became something of a pest. A good friend suggested that as part of his chastity routine I stop letting him see me in a state of undress or nude. > So somewhat reluctantly I decided to cease dressing in the bedroom at the start or end of the day. This meant my husband could no longer watch me without clothes. At first he was grumpy, and I had to be firm that his own behavior led to this decision. > It didn't change his behavior instantly, but over a few weeks it sank in for him that he no longer had free access to my body; rather, it is a privilege I grant when I decide. The result is that he has become much more respectful; the leers, comments, and unsolicited touching are gone. > As an occasional treat, I do give him a 'flash' of a stocking top or bra. And when he behaves well, I will lift my skirt and let him kiss me through my knickers. > Click to expand... The only time I am allowed into Her room while She is dressing if it's to lace Her Corset or help with boots. Besides that like You Ma'am a peek here and there to show how sexy She is thank you for sharing.
I absolutely love your approach. I imagine he'll continue to be more obedient and respectful, as he should be. But I trust you don't extend him the same privileges. If you wish to see him nude or not, that should be your decision, not his. Personally, this would be a super effective approach for me, as I absolutely adore the female form.
> L-u-c-y said: > An excellent idea. Males need to realize they have to work for everything and not feel entitled. > Click to expand... Yes, just like food. Nobody is entitled to a meal.
Nobody is entitled. Wives included too. If hubby is ok with that, great. if not he should say something before he finally says the heck with it and you.
> MsTara said: > I suppose like many wives and girlfriends, my husband would often bother me for sex or just touch me whenever I was putting on or taking off clothes. > Now I am a woman who enjoys being feminine, which to me means wearing nice lingerie, dresses, skirts, usually stockings or hold-ups, and of course good shoes. > As all the men reading this are likely thinking, consider this an invitation for them to leer, comment, or perhaps touch any lady making an effort with her appearance. > Trust me, boys, this isn't about you but about me - it makes me feel good and boosts my confidence. Whether it turns you on is incidental in my book and more importantly your concern. > Which brings us back to where I was at the start of the year regarding my husband. We have practiced chastity for several years now, but only in the last twelve months has been serious about its use. He spends longer periods in the cage each time, and since roughly Christmas he has worn it 24/7. > The issue for me was that his behavior whenever I dressed or undressed became tiresome; honestly, he became something of a pest. A good friend suggested that as part of his chastity routine I stop letting him see me in a state of undress or nude. > So somewhat reluctantly I decided to cease dressing in the bedroom at the start or end of the day. This meant my husband could no longer watch me without clothes. At first he was grumpy, and I had to be firm that his own behavior led to this decision. > It didn't change his behavior instantly, but over a few weeks it sank in for him that he no longer had free access to my body; rather, it is a privilege I grant when I decide. The result is that he has become much more respectful; the leers, comments, and unsolicited touching are gone. > As an occasional treat, I do give him a 'flash' of a stocking top or bra. And when he behaves well, I will lift my skirt and let him kiss me through my knickers. > Click to expand... Taking back ownership should be a key element in any FLR. Good for You Madam.
I really don't want my wife to get this idea. I enjoy looking at her. I adore looking at her when I'm locked up. I think for now, she enjoys the novelty of my hungry gaze, but I could see her growing tired of it...
> mcfeely said: > Nobody is entitled. Wives included too. If hubby is ok with that, great. if not he should say something before he finally says the heck with it and you. > Click to expand... I'm not sure you understand the dynamic of a FLR.
My Mistress used to enjoy teasing me, but if she didn't want me to look she would instruct me to keep my eyes lowered to her feet and ankles. As far as lewd comments rather than complimentary ones I would be severely caned or whipped if I did anything like that, but to be honest I would prefer a severe caning/whipping to being unable to see her naked or dressing/undressing as I find that incredibly erotic. If I was your hubby I would beg for any other punishment rather than denial of seeing you or helping you dress or undress.
> MissyB said: > I'm not sure you understand the dynamic of a FLR. > Click to expand... I find it all kinds of sad that you and 7 other people think an FLR means the man should never express an opinion that contradicts his partner's.
> Unlucky said: > I find it all kinds of sad that you and 7 other people think an FLR means the man should never express an opinion that contradicts his partner's. > Click to expand... As @MissyB says, you don't understand.
It's not that. It's the idea that if she isn't willing to show herself to him that it's somehow a reason for an ultimatum. It's almost like he's arguing that women are obliged to be nude around their husband unless he specifically gives up the right.
> tecolote said: > It's not that. It's the idea that if she isn't willing to show herself to him that it's somehow a reason for an ultimatum. It's almost like he's arguing that women are obliged to be nude around their husband unless he specifically gives up the right. > Click to expand... It is really easy to read this as constructive abandonment masquerading as an FLR/Chastity. He has an absolute right to object to the former.
> Unlucky said: > It is really easy to read this as constructive abandonment masquerading as an FLR/Chastity. He has an absolute right to object to the former. > Click to expand... Well, I don't see any abandonment. OP teases him with the occasional flash. I mean, it could be that, but I don't think so. Obviously a guy can have hard limits. It's just that this would be a really odd hard limit to leave a relationship for without other problems.