Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I’d be interested in hearing from others here who are locked yet don’t identify as submissive. I act as a dom with my wife; she edges me but doesn’t restrict access when I unlock. I know this falls outside the “mainstream” chastity/FLR/submissive spectrum, but I suspect there are more like me.

> Nostromo said: > I’d be interested in hearing from others here who are locked yet don’t identify as submissive. I act as a dom with my wife; she edges me but doesn't restrict access when I unlock. I know this falls outside the “mainstream” chastity/FLR/submissive spectrum, but I suspect there are more like me. > Click to expand... That would be me. I remain the alpha in the house while my genitals belong to my wife. I don’t want to stay locked up permanently, but she holds the key rather than me.

I've spent years trying to encourage Mrs Edge into more BDSM-ish activities, though without much lasting success. For some reason, she kinks on chastity, especially the long-term, cage-wearing, orgasm denial variety. She loves the idea of me wearing the cage for months or even years. She enjoys when I wear a strapon and get all worked up while my cage pushes against her ass. She also likes feeling the cage against her back as we spoon at night. For us, it's a fun kink, and we've been doing this (on and off) for close to 20 years now. Currently, I've been locked up for over a year, and can reasonably expect not to have an orgasm for two to five years, possibly ten. She does not self-identify as kinky, considering herself a simple, normal, sexually healthy woman. We have an otherwise vanilla relationship. I know, right?

My submissive wife is my keyholder. She persists in keeping me locked up, even during our honeymoon. I can see that if I encourage her, she could eventually take more control down the road.

> Tom Allen said: > She loves when I wear a strapon and get all worked up while my cage pushes against her ass. > Click to expand... Yes. The next step for us is getting me a strapon so that I don't have to be unlocked to penetrate her.