Female led relationships discussion

Hi everyone I’ve been on over a week and enjoying this site I am looking for a bit of help. My Queen is still at the stage that FLR and chastity is a bit weird. I keep asking for her to read this book read that book which she don’t or will flick quickly through. So I end up saying do this to me do that to me which I know I’m not meant too this just pushes her away I believe if she chatted to a someone then I would not need to and the experience would begin for both of us. I’ve read these books and different web pages and as every man reads we get excited and our minds go into porn mode lol. Since joining CM I read more respectful realistic forums which if she did too and write her own asking for help from mistresses who were also feeling the way she does when they started out she would learn a bit more in how to approach FLR and how to address it in a comfortable way. So is there any mistresses who could reply to this please so I could show her that if she signed up here and chatted to mistresses that can help her understand more I would be very grateful. It’s hurting me that I’m getting a bit pushy she’s had me locked up now for 24 days with no O we’ve been trying for nearly a year now I just feel she will get to feel more confident if she can chat with someone who can understand where she is at this moment with the whole thing I love her so much and happily married I just want her to understand what I am feeling Thank you in advance

Try giving her some space and time. Especially when starting out, it's best not to rush things along by trying to force someone else to move at a pace that's too quick for them. It's also a much more enjoyable process when it happens organically.

> SandM said: > Try giving her some space and time. Especially when starting out, it's best not to rush things along by trying to force someone else to move at a pace that's too quick for them. It's also a much more enjoyable process when it happens organically. > Click to expand... Thank you sandm I know your right I am learning this very quickly I’ve started this all wrong I have been pushing and pushing for her to get up to speed as a mistress would take years to learn I shouted at her last night for not doing this right your not doing that right I always prompt her do this do that so basically I am being well can’t even say the dominant but basically a bully I hate bullies so this has upset me and I hold my head in shame I love her more than anything on this earth and last thing I want to do is see her hurt and upset. It took a lot of courage to tell her about my fantasy and FLR now I accept she has more courage than me to accept what I have asked of her and can’t expect her to flick a switch and be different I’ve just read on female keyholder forum how to be more affirmative ( do you recommend I ask her to read it )and reading it has opened my eyes to what I have done wrong she has asked to read these comments from this forum so she will read what I am writing now. I just am trying to convince her to research and then I know the dominance will slowly take shape and I will forever be happy and I believe it will for her too. When we got together she was the strongest in the relationship as the years have gone by due to life and other obstacles in her life it made her weak minded and having to comfort her and wipe her tears it made me the strongest one which I don’t want anymore I want her back and I tell her when she gets into FLR it will change her and make her feel like the strong person she once was hope this all makes sense to you thanks for listening