Female led relationships discussion

Here is my situation: I am in a long-term relationship with a submissive male partner. My closet contains plenty of restraints and bondage gear, along with an idea to strengthen the D/S dynamic between us.

What we have done so far: Chastity has always appealed to me, so from day one of our partnership, I started limiting and controlling his orgasms. We never used a physical device; honestly, it didn’t seem necessary then or now because he is honest, trustworthy, and refuses unauthorized releases on his own. Gradually, my control over his orgasm habits built a wonderful dynamic where I feel dominant while he feels owned. I cherish mental and emotional authority, and believe we have reached a stage where he practically cannot release without my permission, usually requiring my physical presence.

In addition to chastity, I practice bondage and spanking frequently. Like many relationships, ours has experienced peaks of intense D/S and valleys of normalcy.

What happened next: We agreed together to invest time and energy into deepening our bond. We named January “Slave Month”. I built a calendar for the month so my partner knew his daily duties or scheduled events. Since I worked some days, he needed activities to occupy him while I was away; this marked the start of cross-dressing in our dynamic. He wore dresses for several hours on specific workdays and reported when he put them on and took them off. This proved to be an unexpected, highly intense exercise with many positive results.

Current status: Slave month has just concluded. We are reviewing what we learned and planning the next steps. I want to share some of our experiences and gather ideas as we continue.

Chatterley