Female led relationships discussion

We needed a little guidance as we are still getting used to the chastity lifestyle. That said, it is also new for my Queen @Mistress Minion; I have been reading about this dynamic for years before asking her. She finds it strange and wonders if there must be an issue with our relationship that prompted this change, but I keep assuring her that isn’t true at all—I love her unconditionally and always will, so the fact we’ve been together 20 years is no problem. She admits she struggles to settle into the role and feels I pressure her by suggesting she read up on it so she can relate better and especially find friendly help here.

I’ve tried explaining how she can connect with this easier! I asked her for five things about me that she wishes she could change or finds irritating. She replied:

1. Smoking
2. Smelly feet after working 12-hour shifts
3. Telling me to do tasks and go places even when I don’t want to!
4. Used to hate it when I didn’t help with the housework and garden.
5. Snoring and grinding teeth!

So I told her to use these points to aid her in her role, as they are part of the FLR dynamic regarding smoking; I think she needs to tap into her true dominant side for that. However, I am already cutting down by ten cigarettes a day—not just because she is being strict about it more, but I want to show her that while I’m caged, change is possible and beneficial. I have also taken on all the house chores and garden work, telling her I’ve been so selfish for years that I feel ashamed. If this information sinks in and she reads up enough to understand the role well, I’ve told her how friendly everyone here is. But what my Queen really thinks is that I want her to read just to get over the kinks; it’s far from the truth! It’s something I think all females have had to do anyway, giving them a starting point to grow with the chastity/FLR experience!

Don’t get me wrong—I think my Queen has been amazing so far. As soon as I mention anything, she says I’m trying but can’t do it right. I do say there is no right or wrong, but reading helps eventually turn her into the dominant lady she once was. When we first met, I was the weak one and she was always strong; over the years, those roles flipped.

Can anyone relate to this and help myself and @Mistress Minion on this path we are following? Has anyone achieved similar results with five answers they would love to change about their partner?

I would change many things about my male partner. But here are the top 5. 1. His snoring, and bloody lip biting when he's frustrated and cross 2. His lack of enthusiasm in going out to parties and dinners, including holidays 3. His inability to understand female needs, like shoes and handbags and perfume etc 4. He hates loud music. And concerts:( 5. His inability to cook and iron. In a nutshell, we aren't suited.