Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I’ve been pondering the expression ‘tease and denial’ and it strikes me that there’s some overlap in meaning. It ought to simply be called teasing, because teasing without denial is essentially foreplay.

For us, this seems to be the primary factor my wife has adopted: Teasing. I believe she enjoys wielding the power to arouse me while also having the ability to refuse sex with no penalty. She doesn’t seem interested in femdom activities connected to chastity at all. To her, it’s my decision, which is a bit of a letdown but beggars can’t be choosers. At least she participates.

For me and my madam, it's all about power; she loves having control over me and my body. She delights in the fact that her influence is greater than mine, even though my madam embraces every aspect of femdom!

My wife prefers denial over teasing (a phrase I saw here recently that fits perfectly). I ask myself: Does she truly forget I'm locked up? Is sex so far from her daily mind that it doesn't even cross her thoughts? Has she forgotten how often she used to turn me down every night? Or is this just her way of 'playing the game'? Perhaps when I asked her to keep me locked and said I wanted to save myself for her, she took those words literally? I try harder around the house to make her life easier. Yet it seems like none of that gets acknowledged in any way. We've had some great sex lately, but it's the emptiness between encounters that is killing me. It isn't positive sexual frustration; it's just dull boredom and a daily struggle against resentment.:mad: Apologies! I realize I've vented quite a bit here now:oops: (I'm home alone babysitting while my wife is out at someone's birthday party o_O)