Female led relationships discussion

My pet and I have been experimenting with chastity for a while now. I’ll admit that I’m usually the one who stops it more often than not. It’s been tough keeping my everyday life from interfering. We both work, have children, and deal with all the typical married couple responsibilities. It’s hard to switch off ‘wife mode’ and turn on ‘goddess mode’. To be clear, I enjoy controlling my pet, but sometimes I just don’t feel like acting as his goddess; I prefer being his wife. Currently, I’m not in the mood, which is driving him crazy. So he isn’t locked up right now. I’m wondering if I should keep him locked even when I’m not feeling it. What do you ladies think? Should we leave him locked during my ‘off’ days or weeks?