Female led relationships discussion

The other night my wife broke down and told me she wants more romance from me. She has a fantasy about our anniversaries being magical moments, perhaps in Greece or Las Vegas, set in a jacuzzi with wine and flowers while we watch the stars.

She’s frustrated because she feels like I don’t do any of that stuff.

The truth is, I try, but something holds me back. Money-wise, I’m quite stingy. Also, I feel her expectations are very high, and often my efforts aren’t rewarded much; mostly I just hear that she’s annoyed with me. Because I’m a bit afraid of not being good enough, I’d rather do nothing at all than risk it. Our anniversaries have been ruined about half the time due to arguments or similar issues.

I’m somewhat nervous about these romantic occasions. Honestly, I’d prefer getting beaten down in a basement where I don’t have to make my own decisions that might get criticized over going on an expensive trip to Europe. Instead, I’d choose a free adventure hiking through Peru.

I pitched an idea to her recently that seemed helpful: ‘What if this became part of our chastity training? What if you trained me to be more romantic for you, and in return, I get kinky play and orgasm rewards?’

What do you all think? Can romantic behavior actually be taught? How do you handle it? Is there a real problem with us?

I often wonder how couples who want completely different things manage to get together in the first place.

> member_58217bcc4b said: > Can romantic behavior actually be taught? How do you handle it? I had the same issue. Before we started chastity training, we discussed how things were done his way for 30 years and now it was my turn. I wanted romance too. Romance means many things to a woman, but in my case, it meant thoughtful time spent on his part. I suggested he start doing one romantic thing each month. A few examples include: 1. If we’re eating dinner, light some candles and play music. 2. Go on a picnic. 3. Don’t just buy me flowers that die quickly; think of something else I’d like. He took those ideas and ran with them. Here’s what he did: 1. All the above suggestions worked well. 2. He put his ball cap over my head during a rainstorm to keep water off my glasses. 3. He learned to dance, then danced with me at my sister's wedding (which was my favorite). The key is having a discussion about what she wants and putting that plan into action. None of mine were expensive; instead, he showed he was thinking outside his box regarding what I would like.