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I’m a bit behind schedule in year three of wearing this device, at my wife’s discretion. She eased me into it, explaining that once she reaches her comfort zone, the locking will become permanent. I started with brief locks here and there, enjoying releases roughly every three days. Now I only unlock about three times a month; October marks my first full month without unlocking. Looking ahead to post-October, she expects another full month soon after, gradually moving toward monthly-only status by early next year, unless her whims dictate otherwise (which are brief and rare).

Her goal is minimal unlocking outside of those occasional whims or special occasions—releases that align with them. I don’t believe she’ll go completely permanent right away, but it’s not out of the question; a monthly-only routine seems like my new reality now (or very soon).

I’m quickly turning into her husband without an erection and without cumming on command. My only hope is that she allows me to worship her with my mouth regularly, as that will be my primary outlet for relief. It’s amusing how near-constant locking has sparked a strong desire in me to master giving head so she’ll want to use this skill more often. I love the idea of being dependable and able to provide an enjoyable tongue service on demand. My main struggle is maintaining composure while servicing her when it’s been weeks since my last release. But I’ve improved. The secret, for me, is not getting too carried away; doing it for her rather than myself keeps arousal lower so I don’t lose control. She seems to enjoy telling me that these sessions count as a release, and perhaps one day I’ll only be allowed to cum with my mouth full.

We do practice FLR (Female Led Relationship). However, I’m not naturally submissive by nature, which sets limits on how deep it can go. She’d like me to fit the typical mold of an FLR husband; maybe she will train me into that role eventually. I am certainly more so than before.

Thanks for sharing your post and your somewhat mixed feelings about being in chastity at your wife's pleasure. I don't have specific advice to add, other than suggesting you focus on the aspects that benefit both of you. Like any part of marriage—and especially sex—you need to find where your interests overlap and work within that shared space.