Introductions discussion

Greetings everyone. I’m Rob from the UK, married. I’ve always been into fetishes—standard femdom and fetish clothing—and recently got into chastity. My wife isn’t interested in any of it at all, so to avoid conflict, she lets me enjoy them on my own since her libido is practically nonexistent. Earlier I bought a stainless steel spiral cage from Bondara after an inexpensive plastic one from eBay didn’t work out for me. I wanted to lower my sex drive from very high down to just above zero. My plan was to use porn and wear fetish gear several times a week to handle myself. The Bondara has been on for about two weeks now. Days have been excellent, but nights can be brutal as you all know, forcing me to unlock occasionally. I’ve settled into a routine of 24 hours in, then 24 out. Stick with it because it’s working; last night was quite good sleep-wise. My wife is aware I’m wearing the device and I asked her to keep the keys hoping she’d help stop my masturbation, but she really doesn’t care—she avoids looking at or touching it. I respect that choice, yet since chastity matters a lot to me, I’ll take charge of key holding myself. My sex drive has dropped over the past year so I don’t feel like cheating would be an issue. We went through a long period without sex lasting several years which ended just last month for reasons unknown and unspoken; basically, I didn’t enjoy it much anyway, and honestly realized I was content with my own company. Even after frequent self-pleasure sessions back then, I felt gross about it constantly telling myself ‘this is the last time!’ I see a urologist regularly so I’ll unlock for a few days prior to those visits plus do a deep clean once weekly. Looking back at when I first put on this latest device was funny. Lots of heavy breathing and effort. I apply Vaseline over my scrotum and penis, add some around the base ring, wait five minutes, then almost wrap my penis in a baby wipe or wet wipe before threading its end through the cage opening out past the tip. As I pull it tight while pushing the cage part up over my shaft, this prevents skin bunching near the bottom (I’m more wide than long). Finally, yank the wipe free and lock the padlock on with another bit of Vaseline around where the base ring sits. Leakage has been minimal if any. I’ve noticed the tip of my foreskin is slightly swollen though. The other night while wearing it out and about, feeling especially lustful, I managed to ejaculate through very little stimulation plus some nipple play. It felt nice but left me feeling guilty immediately after. Keep up the wonderful thread folks; I’ve loved reading along.

Welcome to the madness Rob