Female led relationships discussion

If you follow me or read my posts here, you know that my relationship with my wife and Mistress regarding Female-Led Relationship (FLR) and chastity has had its ups and downs. I am making a conscious effort this time to be more thoughtful and cautious. One issue from the past was her not strictly enforcing her rules and expectations. For instance, if she expects me to make the bed daily, there must be consequences when I don’t. While she can choose what those consequences are, my frustration grows if nothing happens after a failure because it makes me feel like I am serving out of desire rather than being compelled by her control.

I have noticed this pattern before where things that get missed aren’t really cared about, so I’ve adopted a more measured approach. I call it the 80% rule. If I meet roughly 80% of what she expects, she is generally satisfied. She might comment occasionally on the remaining 20%, but she won’t go overboard with discipline for those misses. This feels like a fairer and more realistic model for us. I don’t believe I can consistently hit 100% compliance, nor do I think it would be exhausting for her to enforce such strict standards.

To clarify, this isn’t about slacking off. My goal is still to meet all of her expectations, and I want her to feel free to discipline as she sees fit. I am simply lowering the threshold for what counts as a failure in hopes of smoothing out our previous volatility. How does it work for everyone else? Do you operate on an all-or-nothing basis, or do you have your own percentage that works?

I get where you are coming from. Daily FLR needs enough flexibility for life to happen without killing the spirit of kink. My Keyholder Wife and I have set up a task list with weekly, monthly, and other periodic duties that form part of my service submission. If I don't complete these within their timeframes, I accrue demerits which lead to predetermined punishments. This keeps me focused on completion while the demerit system allows for occasional misses during busy periods without it feeling like an all-or-nothing scenario. Additionally, there are times when I ask Mistress for extensions, and she usually grants them. It does require some record-keeping, but I find that part enjoyable. Hope this helps! asal