Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Hey im new to this forum, i’ve been fantasizing about chastity for a few years now and am semi-active in other communities, but have done nothing so far except self-experimenting. My interest is in teasing and denial—cruel denial specifically—and being controlled with minimal effort from my side. I don’t care much for pain or the sissy aesthetic; just the natural results of wearing a lock.

I am 26, and my girlfriend is 22. I’m considering telling her about chastity and getting her involved, but there are a few reservations on my end that I’d like your advice on—or perhaps even experience firsthand.

My main concern revolves around her character, so let me share some details: she’s the classic “sweet and innocent” type, very gentle. She has a childish spirit in many ways, lacks exposure to porn entirely, and never (truly never) masturbates. Her sexual experience is quite limited; I wouldn’t say she dislikes sex—she does enjoy it—but much of the basics need guiding from me. The bedroom dynamic is completely led by me. I wish she took more initiative there; we’ve discussed this, but words remain just that.

In our daily life, I set the tone and she submits naturally. Needless to say, the relationship itself remains vanilla.

I’m worried she’s too far removed from this world to apply the chastity game (which isn’t quite a full lifestyle yet) into our lives in a way that benefits both of us without me topping from the bottom. I think she might take the key and get completely lost with it because of what I’ve mentioned.

However, I see some points of light: she loves to be licked, whereas I mostly avoid going down (I have no real problem doing so; I’m just lazy). She is a clit-gasmer. i sometimes masturbate to porn when home alone. However, she feels betrayed every time I do, even though I am fully open about it. She makes a huge deal out of this—it’s the first time I’ve seen such a reaction from her. Come on… im a guy i jerk off.

so maybe she can take advantage of these dynamics. my last concern is the catch-up period she will probably have to go through. She hasn’t been exposed to anything fetish-like in her life before. I don’t think she’ll run away terrified, but from this point to understanding the mind games behind chastity and t&d (teasing & denial), there’s a longgg way to go. Im afraid it will be too long and ill just be stuck in my cage losing interest…

So now, you wise and experienced KHs and lock-ees, after hearing some of my point of view, what would you advise? Going for it? Giving it a try? Do you recognize any points of similarity to your relationship? Please do share thoughts and ideas. I created a poll for fun =)