Female led relationships discussion

I just blogged this but realised it may be better posted as a thread question… Everyone goes on about the wanting to be 24/7, but to what extent is this really needed? pet does most (all?) of our housework, he is my chauffeur, he cooks most (all?!) of the time. He babysits the kids when I go off to party, he makes sure I have clean clothes, a bath run, a glass of wine/water/cup of coffee. A lot of people will say that’s not 24/7, that’s a normal loving relationship. How often is kink involved? I would say to some extent every day. It is mentioned every day even if something doesn’t happen every day. Yesterday was a very busy afternoon kinkwise (charlotte reappeared), and the day before was for me, I made friends with Mr H. Throughout this week I’ve been receiving compliments on my “performance” at WhipLash, and have 3 requests for play this coming Saturday… so maybe I can be considered a RL Domme now! What is missing? Why aren’t we where I want to be, even though we’ve come so far? I think it’s all down to respect. pet is a cheeky brat, and although I can contain that to some extent at home, I do find myself wishing he was more “sub-like” in public. I know he’s more kinky than submissive, but I still think he needs to check himself in public (vanilla or kinky) and be a lot more respectful. I’m wondering how I cross the line from “nagging girlfriend” to “Domme in charge”…