Female led relationships discussion

Hubby has been confined for a while now. Over the weekend, I let him out of his cage intermittently as rewards for good behavior and teasing that was almost painful to bear. Tonight, he finally gets released. Actually, I should go back in time. An old friend visited this past weekend. Hubby is gradually learning to respect my rules, but since we are still new at this, he stumbles a little. On Thursday night, I unlocked him for a proper cleaning and some exquisite tease-and-denial session that we both loved. Friday was when my friend arrived. That evening, after returning from the cinema with her, my husband reverted to his old habits and engaged in some sexual banter with my guest. It wasn’t excessive, but it raised an eyebrow of mine. After seeing my friend settled for bed, I calmly took my husband to our room, shut the door, and told him that I was somewhat irritated because he had breached one of the terms of our agreement. I outlined his misstep, made him bend over the mattress, and gave him a solid spanking. When my hand grew weary, I brought out a small whip for the finishing touches. Despite the sting, he apologized and thanked me profusely for guiding him correctly. Last night, he painted my toenails and then masturbated me while I watched some porn, reminding me that tonight was his turn to be released—and wasn’t I excited? I said I wanted to ride him until we both climaxed inside each other…and only then would I let him take me from behind so he could relieve himself on my backside. He was thrilled but conflicted. He decided he didn’t want the release because he dislikes the behavioral shifts that follow for a few days afterward. He asked not to be allowed to come, choosing instead to satisfy me and deny himself. Hubby enjoys having me in this mode, though, despite trying hard; he pushed his luck slightly too far, flopped onto his back with hands behind his head, and had a minor, interrupted orgasm. He felt terrible and apologized for disappointing me. I reminded him that I had given permission to climax, so the only person he’d let down was himself. I am somewhat of a pushover still, so I felt sorry for him…but at the same time, I’m incredibly proud of the man he is trying to become. I wonder how many others have gone through something like this?