Female led relationships discussion

Hi there, I have a bit of a question and a situation where I could use some advice. Let me provide the background first. My wife (who is like my goddess) are deeply in love and get along better than any other couple we know. We’ve been together for 20 years and have two great kids: a girl aged 13 and a boy aged 9. When we started, she was quite sexually reserved, and most of the play has happened because I pushed it forward. That said, she admits there’s nothing she regrets or dislikes from our time together.

We began swinging a few years back, but not intensely—maybe once every three to four months. We discussed it and realized that her being with another man is what we enjoy most; I act as the voyeur while she puts on a show (LOL). Honestly, I didn’t care much about other women because my main goal was seeing her sexually satisfied.

Fast forward: due to our openness, I told her about my desire to be feminized and locked up. Getting used to the dressing took some time, but she now accepts it and enjoys it. She goes so far as making me wear panties 24/7 now and has on special nights done my makeup and chosen lingerie for me.

We then bought the CB6000s; I’m sure they were initially just to humor me, but roles have shifted, and she loves having me locked up. She actually gets a bit grumpy if I’m not in it. She keeps both keys—one on her person and one hidden around the house for emergencies.

We’ve tried repeatedly to find her a fuck buddy. If you’ve ever attempted this, you know it’s harder than people think. Who would have thought getting a woman laid is so difficult? (LOL) It really does take effort.

ANYWAY (I tend to ramble). As I said, we love each other deeply and are very affectionate. She isn’t exactly a domme by nature, but every day I’m off work, she emails me a to-do list that is expected to be completed. Since she doesn’t have a regular buddy yet, she still has needs and really enjoys having me inside her.

So my question is: would it be appropriate for me to ask her not to have intercourse with me so as to prolong my lockup? Or should I please her and give in to what she wants? Ultimately, this is about pleasing her. If she wants me and that makes her happy, isn’t that the point?

However, I do want to please her orally and manually while staying locked up and denied. What should I do???? Does any of that make sense? LOL Anyway, any help would be appreciated. Sissy Shane