Female led relationships discussion

I’ve spent quite a while moving back and forth between the femdom and chastity scenes. My partner has been wonderful, as most women are, showing just enough interest to keep my own from fading away. But everything shifted about ten minutes ago.

To set the stage (so please pour yourself some tea or your drink of choice), Saturday was a major occasion for my parents—a combined birthday and milestone anniversary celebration. They’re financially comfortable and chose a upscale resort for us all to spend the weekend, with no budget limits applied. It’s hard to say no to such an offer, so we joined them for Friday and Saturday nights.

After too much dinner on Friday, a massive buffet breakfast on Saturday, a trip to the chocolate factory, two souvlakis at friends’ housewarming party, plus chips, beer, twisties, appetizer, main course, dessert, and liqueur coffee (yes, I’m old enough… just look at my beard!), I succumbed to food poisoning—the pleasant kind—on our beautiful bed.

I woke up suddenly in the night, nearly breaking out into a cold sweat. In my dream, an INCREDIBLE SEXY AMAZING STUNNING WOMAN was walking toward me, surrounded by steam, her heels clicking with frightening clarity. Sheer perfection. I looked from her feet to her head… and realized it was my wife. My first thought was: “Holy crap, what if I lose her!” It was almost dawn, and my movement woke her up. We talked for a long time (though maybe not clearly enough about how attractive she seemed in my dream) as I explained that I’ve come to realize I’m ready to do whatever it takes to stay by her side. That she should be the one guiding our relationship’s direction, and that my love for her will always awaken my submissive nature… willing to serve just to please, asking nothing back.

So tonight (Monday) arrives. I came home from work feeling a bit under the weather with a headache and sore throat. Since there are very few days of good weather in this part of the world over the next couple of months, I changed clothes and rushed out to paint the eaves on the bungalow (renovations dominate our lives). After cleaning up and returning inside, my wife approached me saying she needed to talk and wanted my full attention.

She explained that while I was painting, she’d been reading through aroundherfinger website I had sent her. She has decided that femdom in our context means she gets to tell me when a topic is debatable or when she wants an opinion versus when she’s made up her mind and expects obedience/silence from me. She views this as a 24/7 arrangement and asked if, based on my words yesterday, I am willing to accept it. To her, chastity doesn’t interfere with this dynamic.

I spent about five minutes pondering this. How serious is my commitment to submitting to her? Is this a lifelong thing or just a kink? Etc.. I decided not to let this opportunity slip away. I might try 100 times and never meet someone as beautiful, loving, and genuinely caring for me… someone about whom I still have occasional fantasy dreams after 2.5 years together.

So we are walking this new path forward. I made it clear that she can’t simply assume her way through everything; no doubts here—I will try to rebel occasionally, but these rebellions must be punished. That doesn’t necessarily mean physical discipline… taking away the internet for a night could count as punishment—but there must definitely be consequences for my actions.

I’m happy we’re making this step. Hopefully, we both enjoy it and it grows on us over time.