Female led relationships discussion

I believe that if a slave offers up a particular punishment, it ought to be rejected. Who really chooses something they truly despise? The answer is: nobody! My partner wants me to spank him (vigorously) as discipline, but I realize he enjoys the sensation when we are intimate, so even a hard spanking doesn’t feel like true discipline… So I had him consume some coffee grounds and then lemon juice for his penalty… mainly because of that mediocre spanking suggestion which I know he secretly likes.;)