Female led relationships discussion

If your long-term partner introduced you to D/s and chastity as the path they want, what would you do? What if they wanted you to become their Mistress? Imagine doing everything in your power for two years to fulfill every fantasy. Meanwhile, ignoring their problems that stop them from fulfilling their side of the bargain. If they lose interest in you—in sex with you, in servicing you—and you work hard to regain their interest and fuel their fantasies—what then?

And then you discover stacks of BDSM porn on their hard drive, featuring beautiful people being everything you tried (and failed) to be.

You realize they haven’t lost interest in sexual pleasure, especially masturbation. They are perfectly happy pleasing themselves with the faces and bodies of hundreds of others, keeping it secret so as not to upset you.

I would feel very angry and betrayed. I’d also be confused: why does someone who has a woman doing everything she ever wanted, shared every sordid little fantasy, and doesn’t mind porn care so much about secrets?

I haven’t decided yet what I will do, but in the meantime, I’m going to live my life the way I want it.