Female led relationships discussion

This is really getting to me. Honestly though, does a woman truly desire a man who is completely controlled, with no free thought or personality left? Maybe I should clarify that I simply enjoy sexual domination because if submission means losing my personality and becoming an almost robotic existence, then count me out. The fantasy aspect is one thing, but having to say ‘I must ask the mistress’ for every little question seems a bit odd to me. Have I understood this correctly, or am I reading too much into specific scenes and moments rather than looking at the bigger 24/7 picture?