Female led relationships discussion

When I share my thoughts on managing a sub in chastity communities online, I am surprised by some of the feedback, even from those who are submissive (which is most of them). When I explain that I punish my sub for actions I dislike, people comment that I’m cutting him off from a meaningful connection and other nonsense. If he disagrees with me or doesn’t like what happens, he’s free to leave anytime. Sorry if this seems like an overreaction on my part; I am feeling quite upset.