Female led relationships discussion

A friend of the slave has been circling for a bit. He knew the slave before I showed up and admitted he likes rubber and some bondage. The thought is, this sounds good, but when the slave explained our dynamic to him, he said he wanted a Mistress to play with him and treat him as an object. That caught my attention; I figured, another cock for me to tease . We exchanged texts, and he’s definitely interested, plus he wants to try chastity- which made me happy! This was all before I started getting online subs, so I was keen to dive into this new role of teasing a Mistress. He would send photos of himself locked up and describe his suffering, but then he admitted to unlocking… wait for it… He is gay and his partner had no idea he was kinky or interested in chastity!!!!!!! I’m not sure how to interpret him. Is he truly tormented by wanting something just out of reach? I see many guys here who feel the same way. The reason I post this is that another text arrived today asking once more to join our sexy games. He lives nearby, and I am tempted, especially now that the bed is arriving, so we can begin playing in earnest. He could be chained, locked, and firmly stuck within seconds. But would I be contributing to his infidelity? Does it count as unfaithful if there’s bondage and teasing without penetrative sex? I’m not certain- it sounds fun, and aside from the slave, I haven’t physically flogged or cropped anyone else yet. Actually, writing this is getting me excited - butterflies! But is everything just a fantasy? Should his partner be more open to experimenting? Or if you don’t like something (bondage, chastity, etc.), do you simply reject it and move on? The slave isn’t too keen, but the idea thrills me. I have this dream of having two or more slaves for my torment, ordering them to pleasure me orally and with toys. Should that stay a fantasy? Am I destined to remain unfulfilled like him? It’s something I think about often, and his texting has sparked thoughts of filth, rubber, crops, and being a sexy dominant Mistress once more. It feels a bit like torture, desiring what you cannot have. The price might just be too high??????