Female led relationships discussion

Hi there, I wanted to pop in and introduce myself. I am a submissive man of 40 who is happily married. Currently, life is too busy for my wife and me to dive back into our female-led marriage dynamic, but I remain fully submissive to her. I handle most, if not all, the chores and cleaning around the house, plus anything else that lightens her load. We have three children: twin two-year-olds and a baby who is 3 months old. Our days leave us with zero personal time. It has been a challenging few years for me because while I crave my wife’s attention, I also realize that parenting brings its own priorities, meaning you must take a back seat to the kids. Our day will return when they are older and less dependent on us.

Regarding my interests, they are quite specific. Chastity is one of them, specifically the Kali’s teeth bracelet. I have this desire for my wife to control not just my orgasms but also my erections. Yes, I own one and yes, I am wearing it right now. It is an original model, not the hinged version from Male Chastity anymore. The total diameter of the device is 1 1/2 inches, with a maximum inside diameter of 1 inch. This is the mild variant designed for 24/7 wear. I wanted to connect with others who have experience wearing it for long periods. My longest duration has been 3.5 days. Sleeping with it wasn’t the problem; rather, those nocturnal erections between 3-5 am can be quite painful! My biggest struggle is my wife’s watches. I’m unsure if this qualifies as a fetish because sometimes it feels like one and other times it doesn’t. Since I was a teenager, I have always been attracted to women who wear dress watches with the safety chain. It is hard to explain, but it certainly triggers something in my submissive soul. My wife now has an extensive collection of these watches and wears a different one every day. Most days I manage well, but when she wears certain models, I fight against the restraint all day long and it truly hurts.

I have always felt somewhat alone in these interests because they are so specific and unique. I am heavily drawn to metal bondage, pre-19th-century irons, and bondage positions similar to those found at Infernal Restraints or device-based setups. We own a set of slim-line combination irons that I treasure when my wife makes me kneel naked in the corner, locks them on from behind, and leaves me there holding a piece of paper with just my nose exposed. I am also a big fan of Lady Carol’s drawings, which offer great bondage positions as well as punishment setups.

Okay, enough babbling! I thought I would share a bit about myself and perhaps meet some like-minded folks. Bobby