Female led relationships discussion

(Or when Mistress Watchful goes into Domme overload and her pet throws a stroppy fit) Before posting I would like to say this happened a few hours ago, we are happily speaking to each other again, and communicating well After everything that has been going on lately my sexual requirements are peaking a little bit. Ive been surfing wonderful cuckolding sites and looking at far too many luscious photographs and getting increasingly hornier by the minute. This afternoon, I decided to seize the moment and have some fun, Wed had a lovely lunch, we were both feeling extremely horny and the house was child free (baby was zonked out in her nursery for once!). Everything was pretty much to hand, I was horny, my imagination was racing and I just felt like playing for my own pleasure. I had pet go to the bed and put on pretty pink panties and my favourite huge pink strap-on. I decided to play with a little teasing first, a light cropping (pet was not happy, but didnt safeword) and then ice yummy except pet starts calling hard-limit on ice. I was not impressed. I did something Im not proud of I over-rode the hard-limit. I didnt push it too much further, but in no way did I see running ice over his body and up to his balls and dripping cold water on him necessitate a hard limit. I chained him up, hands and feet, so he couldnt struggle. I played with the ice a little more, then I decided to relieve my horniness I rode the strap-on hard I got my juices flowing.. I sat over his hooded face and masturbated until I came, just letting him taste my fingers instead of my pussyI rode the strap-on till I came again and then I decided to release him I made him fuck me hard with the strap-on, cumming again, so hard, god I was loving every minute of this I made him go down on me in between times and he seemed desperately horny, so I asked if hed like a turn He answered yes, ditched the strap-on and started fucking me… I was so horny and dripping and ready to cum again and again. He asked permission to cum, I denied, saying I wanted to be fucked harder and faster, so he carried on and asked again, I denied, this time right up to the edge, he stopped, and started again this time sure I would let him cum, but I didnt I was loving the attention and the look on his face, but the next time I stopped him, he flipped out punched a pillow and got mad. I was upset, I realised I fucked up and misread signals and pushed it too far. I tried to cuddle him, but he wouldnt have any of it. Baby woke up, he dressed and went to see to her, and I went and cried and cried in the shower. Just when I truly thought Id got a grip on it, he seemed so mad at me. Told me that spanking and ice was ok as a punishment but I shouldnt just use them for my pleasure, and that he had every right to be upset at not being allowed to cum. Im a bit lost. Did I screw up? Did I overstep the mark? I thought I was doing what I was supposed to do, enjoying myself sexually, teasing him I wanted him to be begging for more, but instead he was angry and irritable. As I said, we have been speaking for the past couple of hours on what happened. Pet confessed he felt he was in the wrong, and Id done everything right and that others would be happy to be in his position. Im gutted. I feel like I should never have gone so far. I have no idea what Im doing and poor pet was at the receiving end. Well work through it, we always do. I wanted to post because I feel its important for people to see the fuck-ups and realise that happens. I still need to think this all through and decide where this is going. Id really like to hear from the Mistresses on this one, I need some reassurance.