Seeking · London · Women who lead
Most of the discipline in my last dynamic was about breakfast
- Hoping to find
- a man who wants his life run properly rather than performed at
- Experience
- Four years leading, one dynamic of three, ended by distance.
- Somewhere around
- south of the river, London
Most of the discipline in my last dynamic was about breakfast. Whether he had eaten it, what was in it, and whether he had gone to bed when we agreed he would. That is not a joke at my own expense. It is precisely what I want to run.
Thirty one, south of the river, I work in physiotherapy, four years of leading, one dynamic of three years that ended when he moved for a doctorate and neither of us could make the distance work.
What I am good at is structure that improves somebody's life in ways that are measurable and faintly boring. Sleep, food, exercise, the thing he has been avoiding since March. Reporting morning and evening. Consequences that are inconvenient rather than dramatic, which in my experience work considerably better and last longer.
I want to be clear that this is a relationship and not a service. I am not a coach and would make a poor one, because I am not neutral and have no wish to be. The reason I care whether you slept is that I intend to be attached to you.
Not looking for a man who wants to be punished and has no intention of changing anything. Not looking for somebody who will agree to a bedtime and then argue about it nightly for six weeks. Not looking for anyone with a serious health situation who needs actual clinical help, because I know exactly where that line sits and I will not cross it.
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